Social Emotional Learning: 5 Tips for Nurturing Emotional Intelligence
Updated: Jan 12
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It’s nearly impossible to talk about behavior and learning without talking about emotion. Emotion affects how we act and react to situations throughout our day and if we're ill equipped, we may find ourselves in some sticky situations.
Emotional intelligence is the ability to identify, evaluate, control, and express emotions.
People with high emotional intelligence often make great leaders, friends, and team players because of their ability to understand, empathize, and connect with the people around them.
High emotional intelligence means children are better equipped to identify and control their emotions (and actions). With these skills, children can more easily reject choices that might lead to issues at school, at home, and in relationships (friendships).
EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE VS SOCIAL EMOTIONAL LEARNING
According to Yale Medicine, "...emotional intelligence is the ability to identify and manage your emotions and identify the emotions of others. Social emotional learning refers to a process in which children acquire emotional intelligence, develop empathy for others, and learn problem-solving skills."
5 STRATEGIES FOR BUILDING EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE
1. TALK ABOUT FEELINGS
Help your child recognize and name their feelings. When you notice your child being angry, say “I see that you’re angry”. When your child is excited, say “I see that you’re excited”, and so forth. Your child will catch on and begin to be able to name their own feelings.
2. VALIDATE FEELINGS
Allow your child to feel. Help him find the words to express what he is feeling. Parents don’t like to see their children upset and often look to fix things before actually dealing with the whys. Give your child the chance to feel the emotion, then help him figure out how to get through what he is feeling.
3. LEARN IN THE MOMENT
When children get into conflicts, help them deal with them positively. For example, during a get together your child and her friend get into an argument about something. Instead of jumping in to fix everything, help the children work through what the issue is and come to a peaceful agreement.
4. GET CREATIVE
Play games that help identify emotions. Charades is a great game that allows for a myriad of emotions. Put on a puppet show. Acting allows for plenty of opportunity to have fun while learning about different emotions.
5. BE A ROLE MODEL
Let your child see how you handle your emotions. When we’re happy we have no problem letting the world know. However, parents often hide negative emotions from their children in an effort to protect them. Let your child "see you feeling” and let them see you appropriately handle those feelings. This will let them know it’s ok to have a variety of emotions and equip them with the tools on how to deal with those emotions.
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