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The Freedom of Feminism in 9 Quotes

Recently I stumbled upon a TEDx talk that blew my mind. As I watched Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie give her TEDx Talk I was mesmerized by her conversational styled speech about feminism.

Here are 9 inspiring lessons about feminism from this awesome TEDx Talk.

1. “My own definition of a feminist is a man or a woman who says, yes, there’s a problem with gender as it is today and we must fix it, we must do better. All of us, women and men, must do better.”

2. “The problem with gender is that it prescribes how we should be rather than recognizing how we are. Imagine how much happier we would be, how much freer to be our true individual selves, if we didn’t have the weight of gender expectations.”

3. “Culture does not make people. People make culture. If it is true that the full humanity of women is not our culture, then we can and must make it our culture.”

4. “A Nigerian acquaintance once asked me if I was worried that men would be intimidated by me. I was not worried at all—it had not even occurred to me to be worried, because a man who will be intimidated by me is exactly the kind of man I would have no interest in.”

5. “I have chosen to no longer be apologetic for my femaleness and my femininity. And I want to be respected in all of my femaleness because I deserve to be.”

6. “But by far the worst thing we do to males—by making them feel they have to be hard—is that we leave them with very fragile egos.

The harder a man feels compelled to be, the weaker his ego is. And then we do a much greater disservice to girls, because we raise them to cater to the fragile egos of males. We teach girls to shrink themselves, to make themselves smaller.”

7. “I am trying to unlearn many lessons of gender I internalized while growing up. But I sometimes still feel vulnerable in the face of gender expectations.”

8. “Gender as it functions today is a grave injustice.

I am angry. We should all be angry. Anger has a long history of bringing about positive change. But I am also hopeful, because I believe deeply in the ability of human beings to remake themselves for the better.”

9. “We spend too much time teaching girls to worry about what boys think of them. But the reverse is not the case. We don’t teach boys to care about being likable.

We spend too much time telling girls that they cannot be angry or aggressive or tough, which is bad enough, but then we turn around and either praise or excuse men for the same reasons.

All over the world, there are so many magazine articles and books telling women what to do, how to be and not to be, in order to attract or please men. There are far fewer guides for men about pleasing women.”

Watch the video for yourself. Just like a moth to a flame, Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie will draw you in and have you agreeing that, We Should All Be Feminists.

Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie TEDx Talk: Youtube

"A man who will be intimidated by me

is exactly the kind of man I would have no interest in."

~ Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie

Photo Credit: Chimamanda.com

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